6 Romantic Habits That Build An Epic Relationship

I’m certainly no relationship expert but since you so many of you guys have been asking me on Instagram about my relationship, I thought I would share some of my tips on how to build a happy and fulfilling one. The list will only cover romantic habits rather than the more “real” and tough habits that are also essential to building a strong and long-lasting relationship – if you’re interested in that, let me know in the comments!

We all have different needs and preferences in a relationship so I understand not everyone will agree with my tips, but here is what has enabled Toby and I to build an extraordinarily strong bond with love and intimacy that keeps getting better and better as the years go on:

1. Make Starting the Day or Ending the Night Together a Priority

Even if you don’t need to be up as early as your partner, put the effort into getting up when their alarm rings. Toby and I never fail to have a little cuddle session, get up and have breakfast together. If mornings are too difficult, try your best to sit down for dinner together instead. It’s been said that sharing a meal with a loved is one of the best ways to boost good feelings. And if you can’t eat together, try to go to bed at a similar time, reflect on your day together and fall asleep together.

2. On Special Occasions, Gift Each Other Your Time Instead of Material Objects

Instead of buying each other material things on your birthdays, try to make or plan something. It could be a scrapbook, planning your partner’s dream vacation or purchasing a book that enlightens them with the knowledge they’re interested in.

Toby once created a version of “The Amazing Race” where he organised activities and surprises around the city. I went from pit stop to pit stop picking up clues that would lead me to my next surprise. The planning took weeks and it was an incredibly fun day. There’s no better gift than knowing that your partner spent his time on crafting something especially for you. Scrapbooks, love letters and such things that can be stored as a memento of your relationship are much more meaningful than the shiniest and sparkliest of material objects.

There is, of course, a time and place for gifting material things. Receiving gifts such as jewellery, clothes or cosmetics on a random occasion can come across as very special and warming surprise! But leave birthdays and special occasions for the really thoughtful gifts! 🙂

3. Be Polite to Each Other

Politeness should always be practised in a relationship. Whether you’ve just met or been married for 20 years. Hold doors open, lend a helping hand, say thank you.

Ok, so Toby and I are also super impolite with our farting contests and we don’t really try to hide our disgusting bodily functions (TMI?), but we’re polite in the way that we always offer help when the other looks like they need it. Or, if one of us is already at home, we greet the other one at the door, take their coat and welcome them home. These little polite habits show that we appreciate each other’s presence and goes a long way in making the other feel respected and loved.

4. Show Love in Your Partner’s Love Language

If you haven’t already done so, take 5 minutes out of your day to do The 5 Love Languages Test to find out what your love language is.

It’s said that there are five ways that people speak and understand love:

Toby’s top love languages are Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. He feels most loved when I tell him what a great job he’s doing and how much I appreciate him. My top love languages are Acts of Service and Quality Time. I feel very loved when he refills my cup of tea when I’m busy working at my desk or when I’m about to give myself scalp massage and he offers to help me. As we both have Quality Time as a top love language, we understand that it’s important to make time for each other. We’ll put away our devices, listen intently to each other and make the most out of our time together.

The love languages may sound cheesy, but understanding your partner’s way of communicating love is key to truly connecting with intimacy and fulfillment.

5. Be Each Other’s Best Friend

I don’t say this lightly: find the truest, strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who thinks the world of you but understands that you are human too.

Be the person your partner can laugh with. The kind of laughs where you pull the ugliest faces. You know, those laughs that make your belly ache and your nose snort? Take interest in their hobbies, support their interests, be their biggest cheerleader. Also be the shoulder they can cry on during rough times. Just be there through rough times. It all starts and ends with friendship.

6. You Both Need to Want It and Commit to It

Relationships are a two-way street. If you want to build an extraordinarily fulfilling and loving relationship, you need to be in it with someone who wants the same thing. It’s a daily commitment that you both need to dedicate your time to. When aimed for, this commitment enables you and your partner to achieve a love that makes you want to dance on rooftops ✨

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Do you and your partner do anything on this list? Have you got anything to add? Do you disagree with anything? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments! 


  1. Hello
    I am one your followers from Iran, Isfahan
    It is the first post I read in your blog, And it is amazing.
    I got engaged on January 25th, 2018 and I wish to have an amazing life.
    What I read here was a great reminder. Sometimes we know all these stuff from here and there but we forget. This post was sweet and a good reminder.

    • Congratulations on your marriage Shiva! I wish you and your husband a long and happy relationship together!! Thank you for stopping by – I hope I could inspire you or remind you of the important things now and then 🙂 I really appreciate your lovely comment! 💙

  2. this is really a beautiful blog..but i dont why from so long no body is giving comments plz admit do something which would make your blog active.


    • Hi Dipa,

      I’ve been quite busy with some other projects not related to The Dream Chapter but I will be active with blogging and social media again starting in July! 🙂 Thank you so much for your support, it means so much to me <3

      xx Sarah

  3. I will have two kids soon…ooh its so hard to get our time together without kids…they are under 2 year sooo it is roller coster for us…hehe😂😂
    oh, maybe someday you can tell us how you two meet and the beginning of this sweet love story…bcz german n australia will be falling love just by faith…uhmm really love both of you, maybe toby should active in social media too… 😁
    Oh btw what is toby profession?cz both of you travelling so much…😀i hope i can do it too…

  4. Hi Sarah,

    I’ve been following your Instagram for a while but just started reading your blog posts. I don’t really follow bloggers since I feel that a lot of them end up doing the same thing but I find that you have this authenticity about you that shows in your Instagram page, and even more so on your blog posts. I really enjoy reading your posts and just wanted to let you know that you’re doing a really good job. I particularly enjoyed this post! You are beautiful inside and out!!!!

    I do have a question though – what camera do you use? You and your partner captures such amazing shots!!

  5. Sarah, I don’t know how should I appreciate you for your all helpful chapters😍
    You know, I think that all of these words are coming from your heart and that’s why it inspires everybody.😊😊 Could you please answer my question how did you trust him? For true love, a person from another country, another culture, really how did you trust? I’d be happy if you say some tips for recognising true love😉
    I wish you and Toby have lovely days for ever😍😍

    • Thanks for the lovely words, Bahar! That’s a very interesting question!
      I think our cultures are not very different because we both grew up in western societies so there were only a few minor cultural differences that we had to work through. I definitely had trust issues from past experiences but Toby makes it so easy to trust him. He tries very hard to make me happy and shows me constantly how much he loves me. He thinks he’s the luckiest man in the world to have me, but I am definitely luckier ☺️💕

  6. Hi Sarah,

    I’m so glad to have come across your instagram page. I really appreciate you honest and genuine posts. Thankyou for sharing your haircare regimen. I have asian heritage and I do suffer from bad hair days and (now that I have discovered your tips) will be following your advice on haircare. Can you please also create a blog post on good skincare? I’m saying this because you gave such flawless and beautiful skin. Would really appreciate it if you do a blogspot on all your maxi dresses. I love your dressing style 😊
    Thanks 🤗

    • Thank you for the lovely feedback, dear 🙂 I can share more about my skincare for sure! I’ve actually made a lot of changes to my skincare this year and my skin is the best it’s ever been. I’m really excited to share my experience with you! Thanks for sending in your requests! It gives me a lot of ideas for what to write about the in future! Lots of loveeeee <3333

  7. My gf sent me this and we just did the love languages test together. We’ve never even thought of something like this and we’re interested in seeing how things go. Thanks for sharing!

  8. Love all the topics you’re covering on your blog. I’m looking forward to your YouTube channel. I think everyone is dying to know more about you!

  9. You and Toby are beyond adorable together, Sarah! How tall are you, love? He seems to tower over you! 😜 Also, I love the font that you use on here. What’s it called? I’d love to use it for my writing! #TeamSarah 😉💛

    • Hehe thank you! I am around 161cm (I always get a slightly different result when I measure myself 😆) and he is 193cm. I actually don’t realise how big our height difference is until I see us in photos! 😂

      The font is called “Raleway” – it’s a google font so it shouldn’t be too difficult to find! Are you starting a blog, Sarah? Do link me!! #TeamSarah 💛

  10. You two love birds! I hope I can find a love like this one day. Thanks for sharing a little more from your life with us.

  11. Sarah you guys inspire me too much ☺️ Thanks for writing honestly, this blog post made my day 😂 I was wondering what Toby’s background was. Is he Australian? Both of you guys have such a cute way of interacting with eachother! Is your goal to travel all around Europe first and then to western countries or do you have a different plan? Whatever the case is my goal is to meet you one day! I tell everyone who listens to me about you because your such an inspiration. Have a great year and reach your goals of fluently speaking German. ☺️ Wish you both luck!

    • Yay! I love making your day! 😀 Toby is German! That’s why we live in Germany and why I’m trying to become fluent in German 🙂 We travelled around Asia for two years before moving to Europe so now we’re trying to see as much as we can of this continent while we’re still based here. We’d like to move to North America (maybe I’ll see you there?!) or Australia in the next few years! We could possibly even move back to Asia but damnnn I can never have a good hair day there 😂. Thank you so much for your love Sarmin! We’re so happy we can be an inspiration to you! 💛 How are you going with your blog? xx

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